[Viva] Dating and Disclosure

[Denise Wozniak]

So beautiful, Peggy.

I met Henry at a wedding and at the end of the night he asked for my
number. I said "no, it's me, it's not you" - of course you all know what
that means. He said "oh all the girls say that!". I said "no really, this
time it is".
I got a note the next day with him asking to FB friend me.. ugh! I said
well I will friend you but I'm pretty open about this and you will see it
on my FB so I have to tell you.  He said "I know...". I was a little
shocked.  I aid "you know what?". He said: that you're HIV+.. I Googled you
and I love what I've read on your blogs.. I want to get to know you"
So the next year we got married.  You could have knocked me down with a
feather!

Denise

On Wed, Apr 4, 2018 at 11:23 AM, Pegfrank <pegfrank at telus.net> wrote:

> Hi
>
> At the gathering I shared that I had met a partner, someone to sit quietly
> at home, and adventure (locally) with — online. He does not like to travel,
> and has little funds to do so. I shared my status on our second date, which
> I often did with others. My feeling is — if I get a bad reaction, this is
> not someone who I want to spend time with. But it hurts initially. There
> were a few slaps across the face — figuratively. In fact, I was ready to
> give up. I was shifting my focus from partnership to someone to have an
> occasionally coffee with, when I met this guy. After talking to a few a
> women, who are scared by the prospect of online dating, and disclosure, I
> asked the guy, why he didn’t leave. He knows very little about HIV.
> “You are so trustworthy. I trusted, immediately, that you wouldn’t hurt
> me.” So that’s my story. Does anyone else have one? I encourage women to
> get out and see if there is someone waiting for them. We feel like we have
> been waiting for each other for dos of our lives. Things are so easy
> between us. There is an energy that arises from relationships that doesn’t
> get aroused by anything else. If you want a relationship, imagine what is
> critically important, let other stuff go, and go for it. I want us all to
> be content.
> Hugs from here. And I know that this is only applicable to some of us, but
> thought I would share.
> - Peggy Frank
>
> “
>
> *I have been and still am a seeker,but I have ceased to question stars
> and books;I have begun to listen to the teachings*
> *My blood whispers to me.*”
> - Herman Hesse
>
>
>
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