[Viva] It Doesn't Matter How I Got HIV - HIV/AIDS Resource Center for the Newly Diagnosed - TheBody.com

[anne bonner]

Ah Romari, the voice of wisdom!  ;)

And Alana, that took guts girl to go home and speak out.  I could never do
that in my tiny community back home.  Thanks so much for doing that, I'm
sure you started some conversations good or bad.  You mighta saved
someone's life.

a

On Mon, Nov 10, 2014 at 12:47 PM, Romari <romariundi at gmail.com> wrote:

> I know it is really irritating and insensitive of people and I agree for
> some it may be exactly what has already been mentioned here. I think too
> that it is sometimes a knee-jerk reaction to a surprising and perhaps
> uncomfortable situation … and not knowing how to respond or react. I don't
> think everyone reacts for the same reason and we should remember that we
> are now educated and we live this every day. We too should not judge others
> for their ignorance but, without shame or anger, simply be willing to
> educate those in need of enlightenment.
>
> As a community, we have been somewhat forced, or perhaps gifted, to
> understand and happily so, that we are all human beings deserving of love
> and respect. It may take a little longer for the rest of society to see
> this.
>
> Okay, climbing off my high horse now  :)
>
> Stay strong!
> Romari
>
>
>
>
>
> On Nov 10, 2014, at 12:32 PM, Alana LaMalice <alanalamalice at gmail.com>
> wrote:
>
> What pisses me off, is i spoke up at an alcohol & drug treatment centre,
> in alberta recently...and this young girl was in shock of my age,and made
> this remark, "wow, HIV is doing you good"! gsus fawk! Wow, thanks for the
> compliment! She thought i was not overweight bc of my HIV. I have worked
> out for ever... i was once 210 lbs before i gave birth to my gift of life,
> Michaela who weighed 8lbs 11 ounces. I am in recovery, alchol and drug free
> over 13 yrs...and have been living with HIV coming up on 3 yrs in may...
>
> Others, ignorance of my diagnosis, i came out, i was speaking at the
> school on my reserve back home, and people in my community were staring.
> Kids running home and telling their families. Just recently i was back home
> on my reserve, and i was missing my weights. So i would go running for the
> cardio. Thing is, i always prior to my HIV would work out, and people would
> think it was because of my HIV, " I'm skinny'! ugh! I work out to be
> strong! In bc, i'm healthy looking, up north, i'm skinny! lol
>
> Rant done. lol
>
> On Sat, Oct 25, 2014 at 8:55 PM, Margarite Sanchez <
> margaritesanchez at gmail.com> wrote:
>
>> So true! I think people either want to know they are "safe" or there is a
>> juicy story, ie. sex, drugs or rock and roll. I think it is even worse to
>> ask a woman because they have no idea what kind of trauma may have led to
>> her infection and that question could be making her re-live that traumatic
>> stress.  Then there is the whole judgement scenario ... depending on how
>> you got it how "guilty" or how much you are to blame for your illness. None
>> of which are respectful or helpful.
>> It still happens all the time tho!
>>
>> On Sat, Oct 25, 2014 at 8:38 PM, Denise Becker <dbecker106 at gmail.com>
>> wrote:
>>
>>> It is a great article.. sometimes I truly believe people ask you how you
>>> got it so they can say to themselves.. "ok, I don't do that.. I'm safe
>>> phew!"  I notice that people with HIV never ask me and I never ask them..
>>> we don't care.
>>> Denise
>>>
>>> On Sat, Oct 25, 2014 at 8:21 PM, Margarite Sanchez <
>>> margaritesanchez at gmail.com> wrote:
>>>
>>>> Thanks! Great site .... I signed up for their weekly publications
>>>>
>>>> On Fri, Oct 24, 2014 at 8:48 PM, CHARLENE ANDERSON <pickles4 at shaw.ca>
>>>> wrote:
>>>>
>>>>> Thanks Kath, great article.
>>>>>
>>>>> ~~~~~~~~ Char
>>>>>
>>>>>
>>>>> On Oct 23, 2014, at 4:37 PM, Kath Webster <kathwebster at shaw.ca> wrote:
>>>>>
>>>>>
>>>>> Hello all,
>>>>>
>>>>> Here's a well written story by a poz guy on being asked "how did you
>>>>> get it"?
>>>>>
>>>>>
>>>>> www.thebody.com/content/75116/it-doesnt-matter-how-i-got-hiv.html?ap=2009
>>>>>
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