[Viva] need some advice

[anne bonner]

Hey Stephanie, that sounds like a literal nightmare for most poz folks.
 I'm so sorry that happened to you, its awful.  It sounds like your bosses
are going to be ok with your status which is good!  It sounds like they
have good hearts and arent judging you.  i hope?  But you definitely don't
have to hand out pamphlets and make a fb page if you don't want to!
 I think its a bit rediculous too.  i also understand keeping it separate
from your work life, its a healthy boundary.  It's not your job to educate
people just cause you're poz.  I really hope people give you the respect
you deserve there and don't hassle you or be ignorant dicks.  They will
probably talk amongst themselves and hopefully there is one semi-educated
person out there to tell them they are being fools.  I hope this blows over
soon.  Remember to stand your ground, hold your head up and be proud of who
you are!  We love you!!  Be strong!!

Anne

On Saturday, May 25, 2013, Denise Becker wrote:

> I had a friend who told her Korean neighbour that she had HIV.  The
> neighbour was very scared and would not say hello anymore.. would not let
> her kids around my friend.  However, my friend took the Korean neighbour
> some info and the neighbour also went to the doctor, who put them right
> immediately!  Now it's the opposite.. can hardly stop the neighbour wanting
> to visit and give gifts for their unfairness.
>
> It's about education and whether they are open-minded enough to actually
> listen and take it in.  It is your illness, not theirs and you don't have
> to do anything you don't want to.  The best reference for this is Positive
> Living Advocacy Dept.  They will even send someone to talk to them.
>
> So sorry you have to deal with this.. Hugs,
> Denise
>
>
> On Sat, May 25, 2013 at 10:53 PM, Margarite Sanchez <
> margaritesanchez at gmail.com> wrote:
>
> From what you've told us Stephanie, to me, it seems like the only
> educating you need to do is to your bosses. I hope your bosses are willing
> to support you through this. Since you disclosed to them better that they
> are informed. CATIE is a good source for free information, they will mail
> it to you.
> As for giving out HIV pamphlets or facebook info at a park ... I don't
> know ... it doesn't sound like it is in your job description.
> Unfortunately this is the stigma that sometimes accompanies living openly
> positive. I take my hat off to you for your courage.
> Do you and your family feel safe?
>
> Anyone else have thoughts on this??
>
> keep your chin up.
> warmly,
> Margarite
>
>
> On Sat, May 25, 2013 at 5:36 PM, wendy stevens <wendybebe73 at gmail.com>wrote:
>
> I am so sorry that this happened to you. I am also sad and angry. Why the
> hell would someone go and do something like this. This is like the adult
> version of a school kid finding out somebody has lice and telling all of
> the other kids about the kid's cooties. I honestly don't know what to say
> to help you. I know its hard, but try to keep your head up. You are lucky
> that this didn't effect your job. We desperatly need to educate people
> about HIV and hope and pray they can understand it. I wish I could be more
> helpful Stephanie. Please let me know how things turn out. And most
> importantly remember, you have nothing to feel bad about. If you had cancer
> instead of HIV, this would never have happened in a million years. Take
> care and remember, you are not alone in this fight.
>  On 2013-05-25 10:23 AM, "stephanie rawson" <stephierawson at gmail.com>
> wrote:
>
> hello ladies i am in need of some advice recently i had my privacy
> violeted when someone in the park dicloused my status (they got this off my
> facebook) and went around and showedx everyone now normaly this would never
> be a issue but i work in the park i live in i am the park manger and this
> reawlly hit home for me they went around and stated taht i have aids so
> does my beautiful baby girl and they should be cautioned my feelings are
> deeply hurt i had to disclouse to my boss who is a sweet older chinse
> chirstan couple now i feel ashmaed and i need some advice from my peers
> rightr now on what i can do to educate them in a proper way my boss wants
> me to do this she wants me to gice out universal percuations as well as
> pamphlets on HIV my negative partner thinks this is riduclous and says to
> leave it alone my boss also wants me start a facebook page for the park i
> live in and give updated HIV info i really want to keep my work within the
> movemnt completey separte but i do nto want to feel shame either anyway if
> anyoen of you lovely ladies can give me some advic this would be awesome :)
>
> love
>
> stephanie rawson
>
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