[SWAF-Potluck] Fwd: Warning about client

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From: "Hannah Jackson" <hjackeso at gmail.com>
Date: Jan 20, 2018 1:19 PM
Subject: [SWAF-Potluck] Warning about client
To: <SWAF-Potluck at lists.resist.ca>
Cc:

Hey all, it’s Juliet Bataille, I’ve been on this list for a while but never
posted. I just wanted to share about a bad experience with a client I had
last night as a heads up to you all.

I met this guy (I don’t have his name because I didn’t get a chance to
screen this time because I was under time/financial pressure) which I feel
really bad about but what can you do

But I know he is a doctor with coastal health, 28 yr old
Venezuelan/lebanese guy who lives downtown in an apartment on 1372 Seymour
st, phone number 778-877-8816. I saw him at this apartment for an agreed
upon hour last night, he seemed chill and friendly and wanted to talk for a
long time, when I realized we were running close to an hour I told him that
and asked if he would like to extend and we agreed on an hour and a half.

When we got to it he was a little rough and tried to rub himself,
uncovered, on my junk but I was able to deter him with my hands. During the
sex he was constantly biting and sucking my neck very hard, I told him 3-4
times to stop biting and not to touch my neck at all but he would not stop
when I asked and as a result I have several heavy red bruises on my neck.
At the end of it it was almost 2 hours I had been there, he only paid me
for one hour. I reminded him that I had clearly asked him about the time
and we explicitly agreed on an hour and a half and he said he had no more
cash and thought the extra time was “just between us”. He told me I could
return once he had more cash but not surprisingly ghosted.

I am kicking myself for not checking the coastal health name tag he showed
me for his name, but if you receive a call from this person know that he is
not a safe client as he cannot respect personal and financial boundaries. I
don’t really know what else I can do?

Hope everyone is doing okay during the lean winter months, I don’t know
about anyone else but I find business being slow tends to make me more
vulnerable to accept situations that I feel unsure about, which is
obviously super harmful.

Thanks for listening,

Jb

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Hi,
Thanks for warning everyone about this jerk.
I'm really sorry you had to go though this, must have been upsetting
putting up with all that, and I would expect a doctor to be better behaved
than that, though I am not totally surprised, as being a doctor is no
guarantee of being a good person.

Also, very stupid of him to try stuff without a condom, I would have
thought that he'd know better.

Also, it makes me so angry when men take advantage of women who are more
financially vulnerable than them. Also sad that he would be so agressive
and hurt you when obviously you do not want sex that caused you injuries to
your neck !

Please don't blame yourself because you are not at fault here.

I sometimes use ' witch hazel ' or ' hammamelis ' (in French) to help with
bruises on the skin . Not sure if it works with ' hickeys ' but probably
would help clear them up.

It's good that at least you have his contact info so you can warn us.

A note to all potluckers:

I am on good terms with Linda Malcolm who is a police constable with the
Vancouver Police Department and she is the Sex Industry Liason Officer for
the VPD.

I have been working a couple of nights a week at WISH, the charity and drop
in center for (mostly street based) sex workers. Linda Malcolm visits the
center every Tuesday night, and any female (including trans)sex worker is
welcome to drop in and speak with her, ask questions, report bad dates,
etc. She has been helping sex workers for years and has implemented
programs like getting  free emergency cell phones for women on the street,
and helping them access other service, link them to help for court and
legal problems etc.

Or if anybody on this list wants me to ask her a question without giving
your name, I could do that.

She works with victim services.

 Now, I have a friend (not a sex worker) who recently tried to get some
help from VPD victim services and she thought she was treated with
indifference by them, so they might not all be as sympathetic as Linda, but
I have watched her work (and bend over backwards) to listen to and help
some very vulnerable people.

ANYHOW, (back to Jb), hope you are doing o.k. after this and getting some
support from people. That is not fair how he treated you.

with love and concern,
Annie
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