[Blacklabcollective] Complaint about Daryl

Fri Sep 16 16:12:41 PDT 2016

Yeah, I absolutely second everything Eris said.
In terms of dropping him as a bottomliner because of his
moodiness/jerkiness, I don't think we should at this point.  On the one
hand, its going to be perceived as linked to this drama now whether we want
it to be or not, and two, We're not doing enough shows, we're not making
enough money, and Darryl and Jill pick up a lot of the slack that we're all
collectively dropping. Unless his moodiness gets out of control or comes to
a point where people don't want to come to shows because of him I don't
think it merits action. Whether we get along with him enough to keep
wanting to work with him or have him peripherally involved in the
collective is something I can't personally speak to yet because I haven't
hung out with the dude that much. So Idk.
Also, I'm kind of outraged at the initial message sent by Kate.  Who do
people think we are?? The drama mediators/police? Why is this city so
fucking annoying right now!!!!!!
Love you all though, for real.
tara

On Fri, Sep 16, 2016 at 3:21 PM, Anju Singh <aanjusingh at gmail.com> wrote:

> I am talking to Jill at 4:30 today.
>
> I also told Kate that she has to deal with the shit talk herself.
>
> My main reason for suggesting that we remove Daryl as a bottomliner is
> more related to his moodiness and anger that the collective might not want
> to deal with.
>
> Personally, I had no intentions of dropping him as a friend. I honestly
> just don't want to be involved.
>
> It's up to you all, I just made a suggestion.
>
> Anju
>
>
> On Friday, 16 September 2016, Eris Nyx <erisnyx at hotmail.ca> wrote:
>
>> Wow, this email blew my mind.
>>
>> I don't think it's our responsibility to do anything at this point tbh.
>>
>> It seems to me that people are mad at him for talking shit about their
>> band and are trying to get revenge. I think that seems a bit absurd.
>> Personally, I think both WANT and Black Pills are not very good - should I
>> be banned for not having team spirit?
>>
>> Furthermore, if Jill doesn't feel like she's being abused why should we
>> believe someone's outside perspective on their relationship over the people
>> in the relationship? I think someone should at least talk to her about what
>> happened before we do anything. And if we're going to do something we
>> should probably try working with him before we ban him (we don't do that
>> remember).
>>
>> Also, people are mad at him for his band being named HARM? Do you know
>> how absurd that is? If we're going to police band names that hard we
>> shouldn't allow half the people who play our space to play there.
>>
>>
>> Can't wait for my $50 000 record contract to come in so I can invest in a
>> space program and build a venue on the surface of the sun.
>>
>> (The last sentence was a joke).
>>
>> Ugh.
>> -Eris
>>
>> ------------------------------
>> *From:* Blacklabcollective <blacklabcollective-bounces at lists.resist.ca>
>> on behalf of Anju Singh <aanjusingh at gmail.com>
>> *Sent:* September 16, 2016 2:40 PM
>> *To:* blacklabcollective at lists.resist.ca
>> *Subject:* Re: [Blacklabcollective] Complaint about Daryl
>>
>> Thanks for your comment, how do you feel about the suggestion I made in
>> the email as an action?
>>
>>
>> "For now, I don't think Daryl should bottomline any shows beyond what he
>> has been assigned to. I've heard he's quite moody, dramatic and can be a
>> dick. That said most people who say this don't think he's abusive, but
>> rather just a really negative person. To stay on the safe side, I think we
>> should drop him as a bottomliner?"
>> bd
>> Anju
>>
>> On Friday, 16 September 2016, mick mccann <nomoreroads at gmail.com> wrote:
>>
>>> Thanks and I'm sorry you had to be the one to have to hear the
>>> complaint. I personally do find him negative and never has a good thing to
>>> say about anyone but do think Jill is great. I already spoke to him last wk
>>> about him insulting people i care about infront of me.
>>>
>>> But again this is just my personal opinion and should not have to affect
>>> the black lab or members. I have heard from others that he is somewhat
>>> possessive From others but unless Jill tells me Im not sure what do to as I
>>> don't want to feel like making decisions without her if that makes sense.
>>>
>>> its def annoying and hard to deal with everyone in the scenes problems.
>>> Unless someone feels unsafe in the venue of course. Kate is one of my best
>>> friends so I'm trying to remove my ego and bias from the situation.
>>> Tonight will be great! And I'm sorry ye all have to be involved in
>>> everything that happens in the Vancouver punk.
>>>
>>> Sent from my iPhone
>>>
>>> > On Sep 16, 2016, at 1:39 PM, Anju Singh <aanjusingh at gmail.com> wrote:
>>> >
>>> > Heads up that we received a complaint about Daryl being emotionally
>>> abusive to Jill and being an asshole. Also the same person expressed
>>> concern with their band name - Harm and the concept of talking about
>>> self-harm which is triggering.
>>> >
>>> > The person who sent the concern sent it to me and Lindsay, and it was
>>> sent by Kate from Want.
>>> >
>>> > Kate has two concerns:
>>> >
>>> > "-he's an asshole who's talking shit about me [Kate], my partner
>>> [Andrew from black pills], and my band [WANT]
>>> > -he's a legit abuser and Jill is his victim"
>>> >
>>> > Jill doesn't feel like a victim but I'm hoping to talk to her in
>>> person to feel the situation out better.
>>> >
>>> > For now, I don't think Daryl should bottomline any shows beyond what
>>> he has been assigned to. I've heard he's quite moody, dramatic and can be a
>>> dick. That said most people who say this don't think he's abusive, but
>>> rather just a really negative person. To stay on the safe side, I think we
>>> should drop him as a bottomliner?
>>> >
>>> > I also am fucking flabbergasted that people can't talk to eachother
>>> and work out their own fucking problems. I'm not mad thatKate  brought this
>>> up, I think she did what she thought was best but I'm also confused why
>>> people come to us so much. I feel like the shit talk is really between
>>> them, and it's Vancouver, shit talk is as normal as the rain.
>>> >
>>> > Positive thing is this asserts why I need to step away from the space.
>>> Away from scene shit. Ideally off a cliff.
>>> >
>>> > (Obviously last sentence is a joke...)
>>> >
>>> >
>>> >
>>> >
>>> >
>>> >
>>> > --
>>> > Anju Singh
>>> >
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