[Blacklabcollective] Complaint about Daryl

[Anju Singh]

I am talking to Jill at 4:30 today.

I also told Kate that she has to deal with the shit talk herself.

My main reason for suggesting that we remove Daryl as a bottomliner is more
related to his moodiness and anger that the collective might not want to
deal with.

Personally, I had no intentions of dropping him as a friend. I honestly
just don't want to be involved.

It's up to you all, I just made a suggestion.

Anju

On Friday, 16 September 2016, Eris Nyx <erisnyx at hotmail.ca> wrote:

> Wow, this email blew my mind.
>
> I don't think it's our responsibility to do anything at this point tbh.
>
> It seems to me that people are mad at him for talking shit about their
> band and are trying to get revenge. I think that seems a bit absurd.
> Personally, I think both WANT and Black Pills are not very good - should I
> be banned for not having team spirit?
>
> Furthermore, if Jill doesn't feel like she's being abused why should we
> believe someone's outside perspective on their relationship over the people
> in the relationship? I think someone should at least talk to her about what
> happened before we do anything. And if we're going to do something we
> should probably try working with him before we ban him (we don't do that
> remember).
>
> Also, people are mad at him for his band being named HARM? Do you know how
> absurd that is? If we're going to police band names that hard we shouldn't
> allow half the people who play our space to play there.
>
>
> Can't wait for my $50 000 record contract to come in so I can invest in a
> space program and build a venue on the surface of the sun.
>
> (The last sentence was a joke).
>
> Ugh.
> -Eris
>
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> on behalf of Anju Singh <aanjusingh at gmail.com
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> *Sent:* September 16, 2016 2:40 PM
> *To:* blacklabcollective at lists.resist.ca
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> *Subject:* Re: [Blacklabcollective] Complaint about Daryl
>
> Thanks for your comment, how do you feel about the suggestion I made in
> the email as an action?
>
>
> "For now, I don't think Daryl should bottomline any shows beyond what he
> has been assigned to. I've heard he's quite moody, dramatic and can be a
> dick. That said most people who say this don't think he's abusive, but
> rather just a really negative person. To stay on the safe side, I think we
> should drop him as a bottomliner?"
> bd
> Anju
>
> On Friday, 16 September 2016, mick mccann <nomoreroads at gmail.com
> <javascript:_e(%7B%7D,'cvml','nomoreroads at gmail.com');>> wrote:
>
>> Thanks and I'm sorry you had to be the one to have to hear the complaint.
>> I personally do find him negative and never has a good thing to say about
>> anyone but do think Jill is great. I already spoke to him last wk about him
>> insulting people i care about infront of me.
>>
>> But again this is just my personal opinion and should not have to affect
>> the black lab or members. I have heard from others that he is somewhat
>> possessive From others but unless Jill tells me Im not sure what do to as I
>> don't want to feel like making decisions without her if that makes sense.
>>
>> its def annoying and hard to deal with everyone in the scenes problems.
>> Unless someone feels unsafe in the venue of course. Kate is one of my best
>> friends so I'm trying to remove my ego and bias from the situation.
>> Tonight will be great! And I'm sorry ye all have to be involved in
>> everything that happens in the Vancouver punk.
>>
>> Sent from my iPhone
>>
>> > On Sep 16, 2016, at 1:39 PM, Anju Singh <aanjusingh at gmail.com> wrote:
>> >
>> > Heads up that we received a complaint about Daryl being emotionally
>> abusive to Jill and being an asshole. Also the same person expressed
>> concern with their band name - Harm and the concept of talking about
>> self-harm which is triggering.
>> >
>> > The person who sent the concern sent it to me and Lindsay, and it was
>> sent by Kate from Want.
>> >
>> > Kate has two concerns:
>> >
>> > "-he's an asshole who's talking shit about me [Kate], my partner
>> [Andrew from black pills], and my band [WANT]
>> > -he's a legit abuser and Jill is his victim"
>> >
>> > Jill doesn't feel like a victim but I'm hoping to talk to her in person
>> to feel the situation out better.
>> >
>> > For now, I don't think Daryl should bottomline any shows beyond what he
>> has been assigned to. I've heard he's quite moody, dramatic and can be a
>> dick. That said most people who say this don't think he's abusive, but
>> rather just a really negative person. To stay on the safe side, I think we
>> should drop him as a bottomliner?
>> >
>> > I also am fucking flabbergasted that people can't talk to eachother and
>> work out their own fucking problems. I'm not mad thatKate  brought this up,
>> I think she did what she thought was best but I'm also confused why people
>> come to us so much. I feel like the shit talk is really between them, and
>> it's Vancouver, shit talk is as normal as the rain.
>> >
>> > Positive thing is this asserts why I need to step away from the space.
>> Away from scene shit. Ideally off a cliff.
>> >
>> > (Obviously last sentence is a joke...)
>> >
>> >
>> >
>> >
>> >
>> >
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>> > Anju Singh
>> >
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