[Blacklabcollective] CONFIDENTIAL - Sean lovebomb

[heather black]

am I able to updated? since I just joined I can't see previous threads...or
we can just discuss at next meeting?

On Monday, 7 March 2016, Megan Speers <speers.megan at gmail.com> wrote:

> I'm happy with respecting her needs. I am weirdly peripherally close to
> this situation, without really being close to Shawn, and part of why I'm
> not close to him is because there are women in my life who don't feel safe
> around him due to past actions. I don't personally feel unsafe around him
> but it doesn't make me wana be pals with him...
> I don't feel like I want to put any work in on his shit to be honest,
> though I hope that friends of his who are closer to him can convince him he
> needs to be more respectful of boundaries, take these things seriously, be
> accountable for his actions, etc. IDEALLY, there are some men in his life
> who can take on this work. I'm not into putting in emotional labour into
> supporting sketchy dudes, not to sound harsh...
> I don't know what to do about any of this and I'm not stoked on the idea
> of banning anyone or anything, but I also have zero desire to try to work
> with him on his shit. Whatever everyone else decides is fine with me. It
> can be a meeting discussion for sure.
>
> On Mon, Mar 7, 2016 at 1:33 PM, Leggo Sirens <sirensongs604 at gmail.com
> <javascript:_e(%7B%7D,'cvml','sirensongs604 at gmail.com');>> wrote:
>
>> Yeah that sounds right. Overall though we need to value her needs
>> regardless of his attempts at repair. Like if she is willing to have a
>> mediated conversation then we would go from there but if she straight-up
>> doesn't want him in the space then we have to honour that regardless of his
>> side of the story. His actions to repair and be accountable are separate
>> from her requests for safer space.
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