[Blacklabcollective] CONFIDENTIAL - Sean lovebomb

[Megan Speers]

I'm happy with respecting her needs. I am weirdly peripherally close to
this situation, without really being close to Shawn, and part of why I'm
not close to him is because there are women in my life who don't feel safe
around him due to past actions. I don't personally feel unsafe around him
but it doesn't make me wana be pals with him...
I don't feel like I want to put any work in on his shit to be honest,
though I hope that friends of his who are closer to him can convince him he
needs to be more respectful of boundaries, take these things seriously, be
accountable for his actions, etc. IDEALLY, there are some men in his life
who can take on this work. I'm not into putting in emotional labour into
supporting sketchy dudes, not to sound harsh...
I don't know what to do about any of this and I'm not stoked on the idea of
banning anyone or anything, but I also have zero desire to try to work with
him on his shit. Whatever everyone else decides is fine with me. It can be
a meeting discussion for sure.

On Mon, Mar 7, 2016 at 1:33 PM, Leggo Sirens <sirensongs604 at gmail.com>
wrote:

> Yeah that sounds right. Overall though we need to value her needs
> regardless of his attempts at repair. Like if she is willing to have a
> mediated conversation then we would go from there but if she straight-up
> doesn't want him in the space then we have to honour that regardless of his
> side of the story. His actions to repair and be accountable are separate
> from her requests for safer space.
>
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